Serious poll is serious

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Taking a page from [Poll #1396744]

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[ladypeyton.livejournal.com]

I said yes, with the caveat that the children in question are his.

And the same goes for Father's Day. A wife should buy a gift or card to acknowledge the Father of her children.

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with the caveat that the children in question are his.

Heh. Well, I am definitely my father's daughter. :) And yeah, my mom always gets my dad a card for Father's Day, and usually makes him a special dinner (whether I'm home to celebrate or not).

[ladypeyton.livejournal.com]

Well, I am definitely my father's daughter.

I didn't mean to imply that you weren't, just that in general, I don't expect Step-Fathers to acknowledge Mother's Day. And in reverse when it comes to Father's Day.

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No, I know that... was just teasing. :)

[dawnofme.livejournal.com]

I am the mother of five children and my answer was no. I have no problem with my husband helping the children. Giving them money, taking them to the store, encouraging them to make things for me. But, I don't expect anything from my husband on mother's day. I'd rather he send something to his mother and my mother. Which he will.

I know I'm weird to think this way, but I have Mr. Almost-Perfect for a husband. He will get me something, I know he will, and I'll tell him again that he shouldn't. But he thinks that he should because I gifted him with five children. But I'm not his mother, so it feels slightly creepy to me. LOL!

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Hmmm, do you think it's different because you have young children? When I was a kid, my dad would take me to the store and help me cook breakfast or whatever, but now that I'm older, he doesn't have to help, so he has basically no involvement at all.

He doesn't usually get his mother anything, either, now that I think about it... he'll call her, and probably sign a card if my mother buys it for him, but that's about it.

[dawnofme.livejournal.com]

I don't know if it's different because they are young. In fact, I would expect less invovlement from him once my children are older. Once they can drive and have money of their own, I would prefer if they did things for me without help or reminders from my husband.

If they were all far away and couldn't take me out for lunch or dinner, then maybe I wouldn't mind if he took me out. But he takes me out all the time and I think it will be more frequent when they are all gone.

I feel like my husband treats me special everyday. We've been married almost seventeen years and we have kept a promise to each other all these years. We treat each other like we are boyfriend and girlfriend that have just fallen in love. We date, we do nice things for each other. We treat each other respect.

If I started to feel sad or feel like I had to twist his arm to get him to do something nice for me on mother's day, I'd have to take a step back and see what's happened to our relationship.

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If I started to feel sad or feel like I had to twist his arm to get him to do something nice for me on mother's day, I'd have to take a step back and see what's happened to our relationship.

That's a good point... and it's probably worth noting that I'm more bothered by my dad not doing anything than my mom is. (Although partly, I think she's just resigned herself to the fact that he is not a good gift-giver. Even the holidays when he buys something - birthday, Christmas - he usually needs some guidance.) But since I am far away and I'm not always around to do something for my mom, I feel like someone should do something special.

[lusciousxander.livejournal.com]

I chose Other. I don't think my husband needs to buy me a present just because I'm a mother. My son should do it. But since he's only three months old, the least his father could do is buy his present until he's old enough to buy me one.

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LOL! Good call.

[urania-calliope.livejournal.com]

If a woman bothers to give birth to your baby you should at least thank them with a cheesy card or something!

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Hee!

[stormwreath.livejournal.com]

He should buy gifts or do nice things for the woman in his life anyway, regardless of what day it is. :-) But no, I don't think he should do anything more special than normal for her on Mothers' Day. She's not his mother.

(I don't count "helping" younger children give gifts. That's sweet.)

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He should buy gifts or do nice things for the woman in his life anyway, regardless of what day it is.

You are well-trained! But it's interesting that all the men say no... ;)

[stormwreath.livejournal.com]

I would, of course, expect reciprocation of the gifts and nice things in turn. :-)

[angearia.livejournal.com]

He should buy gifts or do nice things for the woman in his life anyway, regardless of what day it is.

Awwww. :)

[gabrielleabelle.livejournal.com]

My Dad always does. I can't fathom a guy not doing so...

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Yeah... I don't really remember thinking about it before, but I must have been raised to think guys should do something, because I was shocked the first time I said to my dad, "What did you get Mom?" and he said, "Nothing."

[angearia.livejournal.com]

I don't think there's really a 'should' situation here because Mother's day is more about the children. It's more like if the husband does it, he's in the thoughtful and appreciative category. If he doesn't - eh, but dang it'd be nice if he did.

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That works. :)

[my-perfect-muse.livejournal.com]

I said "Other" simply because we had a deal in our house which I thought was perfect. Dad helped us with mother's day gifts (and Mum helped with father's day gifts) until we were about 10 or 11 and could do it on our own. When we were really little he bought her flowers and such, but every year since he stopped doing anything, he just tells her every mother's day how much he appreciates her and his children.

My parents aren't really people who fuss about these things and are very much against overly materialistic expressions, so I think that his acknowledgment is enough. Especially since my brother and I are nearing the age where we will be having our own kids soon and I think they will be fussing over me on Mother's day in the future just for the novelty of it all :) Then again, I don't really do anything specific for Mum anymore either, I just give a sum of money to breast cancer research in her name since she's a two-time survivor so that some day in the future less mothers will die from it all... Cheesy, I know, but my mummy loves it ;)

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I just give a sum of money to breast cancer research in her name since she's a two-time survivor so that some day in the future less mothers will die from it all

Not cheesy! That's really cool.

[ayinhara.livejournal.com]

I'm a mother and I think that Mother's Day is a Hallmark event and can be ignored.

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LOL!

[seapealsh.livejournal.com]

I said yes because the spouse should actually want to acknowledge either Mother's Day or Father's Day because they love their spouse.

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Makes sense.

[silverusagi]

Other. Something little might be nice. But I don't think husbands should be expected to buy wives jewelry for Mother's Day, as commercials suggest. And obviously helping the kids get something is different.

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Nah, doesn't have to be something big or expensive. I just think some acknowledgment would be nice. :)