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next_to_normalSo, we all remember the guy who was allergic to making plans, right? We should, it was only a week ago, don't tell me your short-term memory is that bad. Well, this is STILL GOING ON because it turns out this is a dude who does not know when to let it go.
When we last left things, he was incapable of sticking to a plan made 4 hours earlier to meet at Starbucks, for God's sake, and I figuratively told him to fuck off. It looked like this:
Except I'm too nice for my own good, so in reality it was more like this?
As it turns out, I probably should have literally told him to fuck off, because my simply cancelling the date apparently didn't send a strong enough message. He texted me THREE TIMES after that - the not-date didn't happen on Thursday, so he texted me the next day to say Happy Friday. Then, around midnight, he asked, "Still up?" (I was not. Not that I'd have answered even if I was.) Then yesterday, he texted to ask how my weekend was.
You'd think radio silence after three texts would be a fairly obvious clue, but apparently not, because then he emailed me on Match to let me know he'd texted me.
YES I KNOW THAT I'M IGNORING YOU. But since he clearly wanted a response, I gave it to him. I fought the urge to be snarky ("My weekend was great, since I didn't spend it waiting around for you to make plans!") and simply said I was not interested because I wanted a guy who respected my time, and that I no longer wanted to meet up. Wished him luck on Match and hoped that'd be the end of it.
NOPE.
His response? "Please don't do this I want to get to know you. I want a friend and lover and I hope we can get to know each other"
JESUS H. ROOSEVELT CHRIST I CAN'T EVEN WITH THIS.
I did not respond, because WHAT DO YOU EVEN SAY TO THAT.
Then, this morning, I get another "Good morning" text. Like, what part of "I AM NOT INTERESTED" are you not getting here? I don't know how I could be more direct.
Even setting aside that he's been inconsiderate and ignored what I said I wanted for a first date, and now he's turning into a clingy creeper, it's also pretty obvious to me that we're just incompatible. I'm not the type of person who thinks she can ~change a guy. And I cannot for the life of me figure out why he would even bother pursuing this further. Is he seriously that desperate? I cannot possibly be the only girl on Match to show an interest; surely he can hold out for someone who's not already PISSED OFF AT HIM before we've even met.
At this point, I don't know whether to just ignore him or try to explain it to him (again) so that he understands this is never, ever gonna happen.
When we last left things, he was incapable of sticking to a plan made 4 hours earlier to meet at Starbucks, for God's sake, and I figuratively told him to fuck off. It looked like this:
Except I'm too nice for my own good, so in reality it was more like this?
As it turns out, I probably should have literally told him to fuck off, because my simply cancelling the date apparently didn't send a strong enough message. He texted me THREE TIMES after that - the not-date didn't happen on Thursday, so he texted me the next day to say Happy Friday. Then, around midnight, he asked, "Still up?" (I was not. Not that I'd have answered even if I was.) Then yesterday, he texted to ask how my weekend was.
You'd think radio silence after three texts would be a fairly obvious clue, but apparently not, because then he emailed me on Match to let me know he'd texted me.
YES I KNOW THAT I'M IGNORING YOU. But since he clearly wanted a response, I gave it to him. I fought the urge to be snarky ("My weekend was great, since I didn't spend it waiting around for you to make plans!") and simply said I was not interested because I wanted a guy who respected my time, and that I no longer wanted to meet up. Wished him luck on Match and hoped that'd be the end of it.
NOPE.
His response? "Please don't do this I want to get to know you. I want a friend and lover and I hope we can get to know each other"
JESUS H. ROOSEVELT CHRIST I CAN'T EVEN WITH THIS.
I did not respond, because WHAT DO YOU EVEN SAY TO THAT.
Then, this morning, I get another "Good morning" text. Like, what part of "I AM NOT INTERESTED" are you not getting here? I don't know how I could be more direct.
Even setting aside that he's been inconsiderate and ignored what I said I wanted for a first date, and now he's turning into a clingy creeper, it's also pretty obvious to me that we're just incompatible. I'm not the type of person who thinks she can ~change a guy. And I cannot for the life of me figure out why he would even bother pursuing this further. Is he seriously that desperate? I cannot possibly be the only girl on Match to show an interest; surely he can hold out for someone who's not already PISSED OFF AT HIM before we've even met.
At this point, I don't know whether to just ignore him or try to explain it to him (again) so that he understands this is never, ever gonna happen.
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Date: Oct. 21st, 2014 04:04 pm (UTC)Some guys are just... ugh. UGH.
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