I don't know if it's different because they are young. In fact, I would expect less invovlement from him once my children are older. Once they can drive and have money of their own, I would prefer if they did things for me without help or reminders from my husband.
If they were all far away and couldn't take me out for lunch or dinner, then maybe I wouldn't mind if he took me out. But he takes me out all the time and I think it will be more frequent when they are all gone.
I feel like my husband treats me special everyday. We've been married almost seventeen years and we have kept a promise to each other all these years. We treat each other like we are boyfriend and girlfriend that have just fallen in love. We date, we do nice things for each other. We treat each other respect.
If I started to feel sad or feel like I had to twist his arm to get him to do something nice for me on mother's day, I'd have to take a step back and see what's happened to our relationship.
If I started to feel sad or feel like I had to twist his arm to get him to do something nice for me on mother's day, I'd have to take a step back and see what's happened to our relationship.
That's a good point... and it's probably worth noting that I'm more bothered by my dad not doing anything than my mom is. (Although partly, I think she's just resigned herself to the fact that he is not a good gift-giver. Even the holidays when he buys something - birthday, Christmas - he usually needs some guidance.) But since I am far away and I'm not always around to do something for my mom, I feel like someone should do something special.
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If they were all far away and couldn't take me out for lunch or dinner, then maybe I wouldn't mind if he took me out. But he takes me out all the time and I think it will be more frequent when they are all gone.
I feel like my husband treats me special everyday. We've been married almost seventeen years and we have kept a promise to each other all these years. We treat each other like we are boyfriend and girlfriend that have just fallen in love. We date, we do nice things for each other. We treat each other respect.
If I started to feel sad or feel like I had to twist his arm to get him to do something nice for me on mother's day, I'd have to take a step back and see what's happened to our relationship.
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That's a good point... and it's probably worth noting that I'm more bothered by my dad not doing anything than my mom is. (Although partly, I think she's just resigned herself to the fact that he is not a good gift-giver. Even the holidays when he buys something - birthday, Christmas - he usually needs some guidance.) But since I am far away and I'm not always around to do something for my mom, I feel like someone should do something special.