Friends Meme

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Gakked this from dreamsofspike... I'm actually really curious about the answers to these questions. As I mentioned a while ago, I was going through the list of people who've friended me to see if there was anyone interesting I'd been overlooking, and I noticed there are a whole bunch who never comment, some of whom have empty journals, and others who didn't even seem to have any common interests with me, which makes me wonder why you friended me.

So, I am calling you out, friends! Please take a minute to satisfy my curiosity by answering the following questions in the comments:

1) Do you remember how you first found me?
2) Why did you friend me?
3) Are you planning on keeping me on awhile?
4) if you're on of those that read me but never comment...why is that?

DoS pointed out a potential flaw in the plan, in that most people who never comment probably aren't likely to comment on this, either, but I figured it's worth a shot.

Comments

[riccadonna.livejournal.com]

1) Do you remember how you first found me? I think it was on Seasonal Spuffy, is it possible?...long before joining LJ, and I may have left one or two comments back then. 2) Why did you friend me? Really liked your style and your attitude about the fandom, it was like making a statement. 3) Are you planning on keeping me on awhile? Keeper. 4) if you're on of those that read me but never comment...why is that? Now I think it's polite to comment, even if I'm not always up to my own standards. When I hadn't started commenting, the main reason was the feeling of being an intruder in a restricted group that would resent me for being inappropriate or plain nosey; I felt compelled to comment by writers declarations of being addicted to feedback and such like things. I'll never post a negative comment, so that's another big reason for lack of feedback.

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I think it was on Seasonal Spuffy, is it possible?

Nope... I've never posted at seasonal_spuffy. Maybe a different comm? I'm also at nekid_spike and spike_fics, and I used to post at spuffy_fics, but that's kinda dead now.

I felt compelled to comment by writers declarations of being addicted to feedback and such like things.

Really? That's interesting. I never ask for feedback because it always bugs me when people beg for reviews (especially the ones who say they won't write more unless they get X amount of reviews). I kind of figure it's assumed an author wants feedback - otherwise, why post at all?

I'll never post a negative comment, so that's another big reason for lack of feedback.

Yeah, a lot of people are like that. I'll post concrit if it's someone I know will take it well, but usually, if I can't come up with anything good to say about a fic, I won't even read enough to review it.

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I'm back after having had the computer out of order for several days, so I'm seeing this today. I agree that the blackmail style request for feedback is irritating, but a plain old needy appeal sometimes will move hard hearted readers, and another thing that moves me to comment is when the author puts some notes at the top of the page: could be something personal like "I wrote this while suffering terrible toothache" to the hilarious Mr.Monkeybottoms disclaimers. Meaning, if they treat you like you're a person, there's a chance that they're real persons too, what a surprise. And if it wasn't the Seasonal S. it must have been the Spike Fics...wherever that was, lucky me! Now I'll go back to check the friend's pages that I haven't seen in DAYS. Who knows, there could even be another Closure chapter...